These 12 points are not meant to be recipes or lists of principles, but thoughts that arise as a I do cut my life and my relationship with others.
These reflections are presented as lowering my experience in family life, social, professional, organizational, and community. Each point shows the reconfiguration of the dynamic relationship that was happening in the coordination of ongoing activities involving the live human.
I think that traditional explanations that we on the unrest in the relational in which we participate, creates a limited world and suffered, that hides the possibility of living in the pleasure of making do, with whom we do, in scope whatsoever. These
without my thoughts:
1) Be in solidarity with others, without being myself, is not generous or good person. Is to hide the inability to take care of my own desires. "The sacrifice for others, does not make the welfare of others, or mine. "
2) Give to others what I think you need, or not do to others what I do not want to make me is not think about the other. is to deny the autonomy of others, their tastes, desires and preferences, measuring the other from my own tastes, desires or preferences.
3) Give to others what you need, as a maneuver and then ask what I need not be smart. It is an attempt to manipulate to the other, denying it as a legitimate one.
4) Ask for or offer from the requirement or from unwillingness, not ask or offer. is to violate the relationship.
5) Accept the I like the other (or me), and try to change what you do not like, not love (me). It is selfishness, and an attempt to alienate the other (or myself).
6) Be front on behalf of honesty, is not being honest. Is incompetent to communicate with each other.
7) Hide the other negative thoughts and feelings and relevant I have on him is not to care. It put my appearance over the relationship.
8) Say "yes" to what I say "no" is not giving in pursuit of the relationship. Is loss of dignity and self respect.
9) Feeling guilty and ashamed of my mistake, not taking the error. Is to suffer in fantasy to compensate for the error, to preserve the appearance.
10) blame the other for what I did or did not comply, it is not justice. It is giving power to the other, assuming as a victim, and disappear as being "autonomous."
11) Auto-compel or coerce the other, in the name of truth, is not doing right. It is an attempt to surrender and (auto) domination.
12) punish or reward, from what I think convenient, is not discipline. Is des-love the other, and cause its inauthenticity.
Fernando Sáenz Ford
